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:: Celebrating Birthdays ::

:: Celebrating Birthdays ::

I was earlier, talking to D, on MSN
About celebrating birthdays. D's birthday falls
On the twenty-sixth of this month. He hopes to get a job
Before his birthday. D asked me, "how do you celebrate your bday?"

"I try not to these days."

"Because of the 30 barrier?"

"I used to celebrate it with a bang.. 
Have a lot of people attending etc... 
But I realize that the birthdays then were not really 
For me or for my close friends."

I think I used to like organizing parties, and my birthday
Became a natural occasion to invite lots of friends to hang out 
And catch up. But what usually happened was that I, being the host
Ended up at the entrance greeting the guests and ensuring that they 
Were well tended to. I realized after a while, that if that was what I 
Really wanted to do, I might as well open a club and be a door bitch.
Perhaps I was really growing older - but birthdays these day
Are more of a non-event. I prefer low key. 

D continued, "I think that birthdays are important and should be
Celebrated because it reminded people of your
Presence. Sometimes as things come and go... I feel
That I am forgotten... even by myself.. and my existence
Seems questionable." 

"Serious?" I asked. 

"I told a friend to celebrate with me last year because 
I want my existence to be remembered," D replied. 

This came to me as rather refreshing. 
While I make time to reflect as I approach my birthdays
Every year, and also celebrated my existence, 
But it was never because I wanted my existence to 
Be remembered. 

"Curious... why do you want your existence
To be remembered," I queried.

"Because I think I have value in this world.
And because I want to be loved too."

That was nice. I can't articulate what I am 
Feeling now, but I appreciate the sharing. 


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I feel the same now, birthday doesn't mean a thing. Life resolve around work and nothing else, I don't feel myself anymore. Bring back the passion when I was young! Anyway like the saying goes, when you are older and have the money every weekend can be your birthday.

Yups. I think I felt this way too, but after talking to D, I felt humbled by his comments - that we should all celebrate life, and celebrate the fact that we still exists and there are friends and family that love and and that we bring value to them and society and everything else.


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Happy birthday in advance!

Agree so I celebrate life everyday (almost), no need to wait for birthday!

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So it was a girl's night out?


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Never really celebrated my birthday much,
not in my 10s or 20s or 30s.
Used to forget it too, for a couple of years.

Birthdays are meant for remembering our mothers.
Commemorate the day she went into the hospital screaming and kicking.
That's why the "Birthday Meal" with my family on my birthday is more important than any other parties that may or may not take place. =)

The next time do include us in the celebrations too. ;-)

I know your birthday is next month or coming soon, hence i wished you Happy B-day in advance before i forget. Cheers.

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