:: Steps to Greatness ::
I have been reading a few journal entries, recently, about people who have either stopped posting entries or locked their entries, because they felt that there were 'nasty' people out there who misused the information and slandered them.
It is indeed unfortunate that this should happen. But it does. It always happens more easily when such acts of malice are conducted virtually, under the veil of anonymity. Or when one shares a sensational piece of news to all, behind the person’s back. In any case, any interesting news make juicy gossip at the dinner table. After all, a little bit of spice enhances the flavor of the conversation, with no blood shed, doesn't it?
I beg to differ. First of all, there could be blood. Blood of the maligned. Like the Herculean tasks undertaken by Poirot in one of Agatha Christie’s novel, gossip is the mythological Hydra that cannot be killed. When one of its head is severed another two emerges to take its place. Tediously painful. Secondly, I try not to gossip as I am aware of the damage and repercussions that I could create. And I constantly remind myself that I need to have the wisdom to understand that there is always more to a person than his or her juicy bits. There were people that I have not met, yet I had an impression of, by the various gossips and comments that I have heard on the grapevine. But it was only until when I finally met them in person (I have to thanks 5Degrees for giving me the opportunity to do so) that I realize that there was a lot more to them than what I originally thought. That is usually the case. Then there was a period when celebrity Britney was slammed for her misdeeds and wanton hedonism. I thought about her lack of privacy and freedom to do what she wants and be who she is, without having to lead the idealized perfect life that the world (or the press) wants of her.
Not easy, the price of fame.
I suppose the way to deal with gossip, bad press and the like, is not to rush to confront and right every misinformation. Perhaps one should pause, and reflect, on the slander. And glean any possible truth in it and then reflect one more time. There could be elements of truth, and if there is an opportunity to learn and grow, why not? And of course, should one’s close friends and associates are misinformed, then one must do the necessary to allay their fears and concerns. Notwithstanding, to set right, the minds of the faceless crowd is like fighting against the Hydra, or the tide. There is no end to it.
Instead, one must do the battle internally. To understand that one can never be perfect in the eyes of all, and go on living without fear. Fear of not being rightfully acknowledged by everyone. In one's steps towards greatness, there will inevitably be opposing forces, like the yin and yang, that will assist, and also disrupt the journey. Every mythological hero, religious figure and modern legend, has a dark opposing force that puts the realm, the dimension into balance - the protagonist must face and overcome his monsters – external ones, and internal ones - to continue his path to victory. For it is this sheer focus – the focus on living one’s self-examined life – that makes life worth living. And one will be focused, fearless, and hence closer to nirvana.
When one washes dishes, one washes dishes.
When one blogs, one blogs.
I have been insulted! I have been hurt! I have been beaten! I have been robbed! Anger does not cease in those who harbour this sort of thought. 3
I have been insulted! I have been hurt! I have been beaten! I have been robbed! Anger ceases in those who do not harbour this sort of thought. 4
-- The Pairs, The Dhammapada
Posted via LiveJournal.app.