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:: steps to greatness ::

:: Steps to Greatness ::

I have been reading a few journal entries, recently, about people who have either stopped posting entries or locked their entries, because they felt that there were 'nasty' people out there who misused the information and slandered them.

It is indeed unfortunate that this should happen. But it does. It always happens more easily when such acts of malice are conducted virtually, under the veil of anonymity. Or when one shares a sensational piece of news to all, behind the person’s back. In any case, any interesting news make juicy gossip at the dinner table. After all, a little bit of spice enhances the flavor of the conversation, with no blood shed, doesn't it?

I beg to differ. First of all, there could be blood. Blood of the maligned. Like the Herculean tasks undertaken by Poirot in one of Agatha Christie’s novel, gossip is the mythological Hydra that cannot be killed. When one of its head is severed another two emerges to take its place. Tediously painful. Secondly, I try not to gossip as I am aware of the damage and repercussions that I could create. And I constantly remind myself that I need to have the wisdom to understand that there is always more to a person than his or her juicy bits. There were people that I have not met, yet I had an impression of, by the various gossips and comments that I have heard on the grapevine. But it was only until when I finally met them in person (I have to thanks 5Degrees for giving me the opportunity to do so) that I realize that there was a lot more to them than what I originally thought. That is usually the case. Then there was a period when celebrity Britney was slammed for her misdeeds and wanton hedonism. I thought about her lack of privacy and freedom to do what she wants and be who she is, without having to lead the idealized perfect life that the world (or the press) wants of her.

Not easy, the price of fame.

I suppose the way to deal with gossip, bad press and the like, is not to rush to confront and right every misinformation. Perhaps one should pause, and reflect, on the slander. And glean any possible truth in it and then reflect one more time. There could be elements of truth, and if there is an opportunity to learn and grow, why not? And of course, should one’s close friends and associates are misinformed, then one must do the necessary to allay their fears and concerns. Notwithstanding, to set right, the minds of the faceless crowd is like fighting against the Hydra, or the tide. There is no end to it.

Instead, one must do the battle internally. To understand that one can never be perfect in the eyes of all, and go on living without fear. Fear of not being rightfully acknowledged by everyone. In one's steps towards greatness, there will inevitably be opposing forces, like the yin and yang, that will assist, and also disrupt the journey. Every mythological hero, religious figure and modern legend, has a dark opposing force that puts the realm, the dimension into balance - the protagonist must face and overcome his monsters – external ones, and internal ones - to continue his path to victory. For it is this sheer focus – the focus on living one’s self-examined life – that makes life worth living. And one will be focused, fearless, and hence closer to nirvana.

When one washes dishes,  one washes dishes.

When one blogs, one blogs.

 

I have been insulted! I have been hurt! I have been beaten! I have been robbed! Anger does not cease in those who harbour this sort of thought. 3
I have been insulted! I have been hurt! I have been beaten! I have been robbed! Anger ceases in those who do not harbour this sort of thought. 4
-- The Pairs, The Dhammapada

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Instead, one must do the battle internally. To understand that one can never be perfect in the eyes of all, and go on living without fear. Fear of not being rightfully acknowledged by everyone. In one's steps towards greatness, there will inevitably be opposing forces, like the yin and yang, that will assist, and also disrupt the journey.

w, i cannot agree more. all the events in these recent years... after a lot of deep reflection, i have come to live and define my life using two very simple words - be happy. and to be able to achieve this is the idea of self-acceptance, self-love, self-confidence... etc. which is the casue and which is the effect is perhaps not important. and the idea of "self" in these concepts underpinned the importance of the "self" above his surrounding - and i do emphasize - not in a selfish way, for the ability to embrace the "self" is a very powerful enabler for the individual to embrace his environment. i also want to add that fundamental too is the concept of "right values" underlying the idea of "intentionality" of one's actions. then again, i do add that this vary from person to person.

well, enough of my perhaps incoherent rantings... think u can appreciate what i am trying say and what i mean.

always good to read your reflections.

have a great day!

j

wow this is a pretty long post from your mobile!

"It always happens more easily when such acts of malice are conducted virtually, under the veil of anonymity."

Yes, cowardice! *shows clenched fist and bares fangs*

Shrouded behind the veil of net, the evil hand strikes whereas in the presence of daylight, it is no more than a feeble hand, not unlike an infant's.

looks like you're already halfway there. ;)

indeed. when one calls us IDIOT!, ruminating over it x 4 times makes us idiots x 4.
anyway hope you are alright?

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actually, I was thinking of that too. Siao lang!

i'm the guiness record holder! =P

What an entry.

You're right too, with learnings from critics' words to be taken into account for, but at this fast age of information technology, and such annoymity in the virtual world, that are still those slander that are just pure meant for attacking only, with no lessons learnt or understood from the outcome. I guess, in one way or another, we have all become either victims or culprits of such crimes.

Balance is the key, and to filter out the relevant from those irrelevant is crucial as well.

Well, most people like to think that good looking people are ugly inside. Maybe some people just can't accept the fact of near-perfection.

Maybe, some people should stop looking at others from the surface.

We all need a little more cordiality.

Well Said! couldn't agree more.

Have send some negative post about u which i think is not true even thou i din know u personally.

Hope u are well. Take care.


U r amazingly most insightful with quite a few of yr writing..... you should rally be a writer and write a book..... gifted!

; )

wow you are reading a very old entry!

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