cynical:: Living the Singaporeajean dream ::
It has always been this case.
About forming perspectives on the way to live.
First of all, I would form some basic assumptions.
Then I would set the rules.
Fitness is important, so I would gym hard and run regularly. As fit as I could. Gold for IPPT is a must.
Wealth is important, so I would work hard and save consistently. And investments too.
Family is important, so I would arrange to meet my family. Tutor for brother. Insurance for mom.
Friends are important, so I would meet and have as many friends as I could. Physical, virtual and random ones.
Health is important, so I would take multivitamins and avoid trans fat. Coke lite as the main liquid.
Love is important, so I would commit as many years as I could to my only love.
Sex is important, so I would make it a regular activity, and learn how to improve on it.
The list goes on.
As days go by, the perspectives, the assumptions, the rules do disintegrate.
It occured to me that more is not necessarily the merrier, and what's important to me
Must be deemed important to me and not merely the result of the influence by what the
Hoi polloi deem important as they in turn get influenced by media, fashion, and the current thinking.
There is some wisdom in current thinking, methinks, but
One should think about the current thinking and draw one's necessary conclusions.
It is way too easy to follow the crowd.
I'm drinking a Soy latte
I get a double shot
It goes right through my body
And you know
I'm satisfied,
I drive my mini cooper
And I'm feeling super-dooper
Yo they tell I'm a trooper
And you know I'm satisfied
I do yoga and pilates
And the room is full of hotties
So I'm checking out the bodies
And you know I'm satisfied
I'm digging on the isotopes
This metaphysic's shit is dope
And if all this can give me hope
You know I'm satisfied
I got a lawyer and a manager
An agent and a chef
Three nannies, an assistant
And a driver and a jet
A trainer and a butler
And a bodyguard or five
A gardener and a stylist
Do you think I'm satisfied?
So what if one's fit, sexy, owns three mansions and the adulation of countless devotees?
If one's not able to be happy with whatever one possesses,
One's not going to be happy no matter what rules and assumptions one enforces.
How can one be satisfied?
By being; yet the simplest answer is often to most difficult to comprehend.
we can never be happy,
unless we learn how to be content.
we can never be satisfied,
unless the society tells us where we should stop.
we are always dreaming for heaps of luxuries,
because everyone hopes to have a better and luxurious life.
in pursuit for greatness and better living, we can never be as happy as what we should be. life is always filled with comparison. and because we are always comparing, to further complicates our issues, there will be no room for any life's simplicity.
this is getting way too in depth, and i feel like being sucked into this whirlpool of arguments or expressions of thoughts. and i wonder, what's the point of reflecting, when we can't or couldn't have the opportunity to materialise that reflections of ours?
after looking through what i have typed in this comment, and reading through my past entries, subconsciously, i am delving into the "better to ponder and arrive at no conlusion" option. it is of course BETTER than not thinking about it in the first place.
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takers and givers
while the sort of agenda you have for yourself isn't wrong or unfair, i notice that you do not deem helping others (along the lines of social work or volunteering), or bearing a cause of any sort, of importance. again, there's nothing wrong with that choice, but i just wanted to point it out because i think it has to do with your own question(s).
we are pitless. our ego is pitless. to try and fulfill our own needs for sex, money, security, bonding, materialism is to fight a never ending battle. (i think the buddhists got it right--the first step of enlightenment is to abandon all ties.) it will never be enough. this sort of living breeds more need, more fear, more insecurity. not happiness. less, in fact. my own opinions, of course.
i think it is necessary to put in more energy to give rather than take/keep in order to be happy. it doesn't mean that it is the "right" way, but i think it is a way to be truly happy. not the phoney sort of happiness that comes with material possession or whatnot.
i read LJ carefully in that i pay attention to those who comment more than they write. these are people i find to be soulful and happy. the rest write tons and tons of entries, but care naught to browse/read others, and can't be bothered to even drop a word of comment, a word of encourage, or even a smiley. the only exceptions seem to be condolences for passings or to add to the gossip. or comment about how hot/unhot someone is. if you can take the time to write (crap), you have the time listen. but most don't. i wonder if these people even listen to their own words and drivel, heh!
Re: takers and givers
who is soulful and happy, i wonder, though.
on the point of true happiness, i feel that there is a need to move beyond the state of giving. social work, volunteering, or even activism (such as the recent one) are great acts of giving, but nevertheless, one should do it with introspection, and fathom the true reason for doing it in the first place.
Re: takers and givers
enlighten me!
it's not an exhaustive list, and i get too tired trying to perfect every entry. sometimes it's just easy to write and blabber! =)
you get my point. =P
*bish*
*wink*
Really?
hmm....*wink wink*
hahaha!
*la*
lalala!
ummm
even for old, and even older entries.
there is a reason why they are still archived to the public view. =)
methinks,
for those who see only black, they live black, and they are happy.
for those who see only white, they live white, and they are happy.
for those who see the gray between black and white, and all the various shades in fact, they are the blessed ones, and the cursed ones as well, for they will contemplate for the rest of their lives, and hopefully, live a more meaningful life.