:: The Mastery of Love ::
Read this insightful entry from 'The Mastery of Love'.
Not something that we already do not know, but something that we probably do not
Acknowledge for the most parts of our lives, myself included.
"Most people live their entire lives in the track of fear.
They are in a relationship because they feel they have to be.
They are in a relationship where they have all those expectations about their partner and about themselves.
All that drama and suffering is because we are using the channels of communication that existed before we were born.
People judge and are victimised.
They gossip about each other, they gossip with their friends, they gossip in a bar.
They make their family members hate each other.
They accumulate emotional poison, and they send it to their children.
"Look at your father, what he did to me.
Don't be like your father. All men are like this; all women are like that."
This is what we do with the people we love so much -
With our own children, with our own friends, with our partners.
In the track of fear we have so many conditions, expectations, and obligations that
We create a lot of rules just to protect ourselves against emotional pain,
When the truth is that there shouldn't be any rules.
These rules affect the quality of the channels of communciation between us,
Because when we are afraid, we lie.
If you have the expectation that I have to be a certain way,
Then I feel the obligation to be that way.
The truth is that I am not what you want me to be.
When I am honest and I am what I am, you are already hurt, you are mad.
Then I lie to you, because I am afraid of your judgement.
I am afraid you are going to blame me, find me guilty, and punish me.
And every time you remember, you punish me again and again and again for the same mistake.
In the track of love, there is justice.
If you make a mistake, you pay only once for that mistake,
And if you truly love yourself, you learn from that mistake.
In the track of fear, there is no justice.
You make yourself pay a thousand times for the same mistake.
You make your partner or your friend pay a thousand times for the same mistake.
This creates a sense of injustice and opens many emotional wounds.
Then, of course, you set yourself up to fail.
Humans have dramas for everything, even for something so simple and so little.
We see these dramas in normal relationships in hell because couples are in the track of fear."
There's so much more.
If I go on typing I'll type the contents of the entire book out lol.