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:: Making A Difference ::


I first saw it on MTV.
It made an impression on me.
I think it's an American thing and also a fad, especially the White Armband thingee.
Nonetheless, if I don't have to use my credit card and if it is just about making a commitment, I think I can do it.
There's always more to do, and more that can be done.
But I dunno if it really matter... whether it's a make-myself-feel-good-and-think-i've-saved-the-world-so-i-can-sleep-better thingee.
Or.... zap zap zap dun think dun think dun think.
World peace.

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Unfortunately, it has become more of a fashion statement than anything... or maybe it IS intended to generate such a trendy effect(?)

ONE ring to rule them all!

Thanks for the invite(evite) and..

thanks for chatting up.. you are not by any chance a scorpio or pisces are you?

(I realise I have problems communicating well with you ... and that only happens to water signs...)

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No I am not.
And your problem's internal.

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I also have problem communicating with him cos his ass is too distracting.

Try not to look @ his body parts while talking to him, focus on maybe his pimples or something - it's less distracting.

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Oh no!!What problems am I facing.. it must be me!!I am the cause of every problem:(

another silicon band... it's like the updated version of the ribbon wearing in the 80s and 90s...

then again, ONE got BRAD PITT!!! :x

ok, I'm guilty of wearing the LIVESTRONG band myself... :x

oh god, no. not another one.

erase poverty? i don't think so. it is not up to us middle-class-ers. it's up to the rich.

find a cure for aids or cancer. not us. not doctors. not scientists. the rich.

incidentally, the rich = the government.

oh well, rich doesn't equate to happiness.


make-myself-feel-good-and-think-i've-saved-the-world-so-i-can-sleep-better thingee.

"It Makes A Difference to This One"

A well-known author and poet was working and vacationing on the southern coast of Spain.   One morning very early, he was walking along the beach;  the sun was just rising.  While enjoying the beauty about him, he glanced down the beach and saw a lone figure dancing about.

Fascinated by this other person celebrating the day that was about to dawn,  he moved closer.    As he came nearer,  he realized that the young man was not dancing, but in one graceful movement was picking objects up from the beach and was tossing them out into the sea.    As he approached the young man,  he saw that the objects were starfish.

"Why in the world are you throwing starfish into the water?"

"If the starfish are still on the beach when the tide goes out and the sun rises higher in the sky,  they will die,"  replied the young man as he continued tossing them out to the sea.

"That's ridiculous!   There are thousands of miles of beach and millions of starfish.  You can't believe that what you are doing could possible make a difference!"

The young man picked up another starfish,  paused thoughtfully and remarked as he tossed it out into the waves,   "It makes a difference to this one."

Many of us are familiar with some version of the "Starfish Story". The story, originally from the book "The Star Thrower" by Loren Eisley, appeared in an article in Reader's Digest back in 1991 and later was included in the first addition of Chicken Soup for the Soul in 1993. One adaptation of the story is recounted above.

I've read this before. Your reply has made me think a little more, hence this rant...

My questions are:

1. How many starfish should we throw out?
2. How far shall we bring each one out so that the chances of its survival goes higher (the further you throw it out, the higher its rate of survivability).
3. Where to draw the line?

There is a point I suppose, but how far?
It's sometimes like my donating to raise the live of this certain refugee who will grow up and become the next Pot Pul or Hitler and millions will be killed due to that certain difference that I made. If I cannot fully sure of the consequence that I am making, shall I even make it in the first place, hoping that it is all in the sake of goodness? And if that is so, how far shall I travel? Where should there limit be drawn?

And of course there is the other original notion that everything done is in fact for my own self-fulfilment. I don't really care if the poor are starving or etc. Maybe only when they are featured on tv or in some Worldvision ad. Then my heart will cringe and I will say "aaahhhhh.." and then donate a couple of tens of dollar and then feel that I've done my little part. For myself, not for the kids.

And then the few dollars goes into the bureaucrat in the middle of the donation chain who cares nothing for the starving but his own sustenance and the only people who really benefited from it is himself, and myself.

Then of course, some of this $$$ would have reached the really poor ones, who are then properly brought up and they in turn help the rest. Pay if off, they say.

There are just simply too many variations, and like the little boy in The Curious Incident of the Dog at Midnight, sometimes it's just easier to just put the hands to the ears and with eyes closed, shut everything out. There is simply too much information. Too many variations of things.

It is not the obvious things that kill.
It is usually the awareness of the subtle things that kill.
Knowledge kills.


-> And of course there is the other original notion that everything done is in fact for my own self-fulfilment. I don't really care if...

this exactly tells what i feel about you.

you won't be lack of friends/acquintance if you are in need of one to have company /to talk to becos you are always in the focus. (this may not be the cause but is something else) so that you are not willing to spend effort on others, except on 1st yourself and then your loved ones. but for true friends, they will do things not at their convenience, and things they are not willing to do at times. but in your case, even if you spent no effort, you are still surrounded by a group who stand by to entertain, or to make you laugh. i doubt you even enjoy more self-time couple-time more than always being surrounded by people, both online and offline, or in thoughts.

true that you inspire, and you "help" others in giving the direction in the words ever out of your mouth in real life and online chat or in lj post, but it is more of because it (the experience of one's losing direction) syncs somehow with what you have undergone in the past, that it is now done not out of sympathy (or feeling the situation) of your "friends" ... i cannot say you feel good after doing that which drives you to do that, but i perceive it's more out of you "want to" rather than you feel that "they need that" or "you can't stand to see them suffer/ in torture" (like the money donation to poor people you stated above..the tens of dollars). There is a huge difference here. It is like "granted mercy", "granted attention", not really because you know they need that mercy and attention but because it is the time you feel like giving. To me, you very much insist to have the freedom of all parts of your mind in your own control (when to grant, who to grant, what to grant), even not at times to have "this release" objectively influenced by what really has happened.

this somehow may maintain "friends" of some sort, as eye candies of some, as mentor of some becos you want to feel like giving out words at times, prince of some who cannot lay a finger on you, but this "not of my concern" very much erode what needed to form the foundation of TRUE friends. Even if you feel sorry, you feel sorry for yourself because you believe you have better memory than you think you were. In a friendship of supposingly no one is superior and no one is inferior, everything has to be determined on you.

i truly believe you have a hard time before. you so much don't want to have your freedom of driving yourself robbed a single bit, or to sacrifice for others.

i'm always fascinated by you. seriously.
actually you are very right in the fact that i do enjoy my private time and self-time couple-time (nice terminology! heh). and i don't sympathize. i give because i want to and not out of mercy. it is never condescending, as in "they need that" as what you've correctly stated. who am i that is so wise as to dictate what others should do?

some questions for you at this juncture.

1. how do you define true friends?

2. what do you want from me?

i can't help but feel that you're feeling pretty sore about my forgetting your birthday. Heh heh.

you always amuse me.


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