I must extend my thanks to all that have provided useful advice.
It may have the power to make a difference.
I have carefully printed out all the comments, and together with eviltaru's letter I will pass it to B.
All I hope is that this collected wisdom may point B to the right path.
To me, the right path is the insight where one's entire lifetime unfolds in one's eyes.
And while I may have used both the carrot and the stick to open his eyes, I have to have the patience to give him time to open his eyes.
Many times, a dialogue yields very little to what lurks beneath the surface, and the readers are obliged to make inferences from the recollected stanza.
What is the best solution? Carrot or Stick or more?
To mould him into what we think is the best for him may not be fair, as we are no wiser ourselves, as much as we want to conform to the standards of the society I commonly term "The Matrix".
Ultimately, happiness as a concept transcends beyond our five senses.
Let me close this up with our SMS dialogue
Free to meet up tomorrow for dinner? I've got some advice my friends want to pass to you. Quite a few concerned friends who are all hoping you'll not make a mistake.
Na... thanks anyway... I still decide to walk this route I choose... I know that I am a stubborn person.. I will prove that I will reach de college I want to ... FAFA... Thanks for ur concern and effort.
Let me show you what my friends have written can? 20 pages. They are concerned, and we've all been 16 years old before and know what you feel now. Not too late.
It is too late already... Sorry... and it is not easy to understand my circumstances... everybody lead a different life...
At least share with me and let me know why? Then I'll leave you alone. I still want to pass you the 21 sheets that I took the trouble to print out. So why?
I've disappointed u in many way... did a lot of disappointin things... since I retain I dont hab de guts to face u... till I make an achievement... whatever u did for me I know u mean good... U will never know me like u always say u know me ... neither m I blaming u... nor trying to infuritate u... just wanna get my N and O in a less stress way... I know I will make it... trust me for this once.
But I've never blamed you. I believe in the goodness of you and have always been proud to be your brother. That's why I introduced you to my friends. But the decision you make will take you through a hard life. I'd rather pay you to study for me but I know you won't like it. In any case I respect your decision. My last try is to show you the 21 pages. My frens care enough to write and so you should read it before you decide. Alright? =)
Thanks for ur concern... really thank u... Thanks for ur frenz effort and concern... No matter how hard u try... I will follow my final decision... I don mind reading ur frenz writings...please
And so it is clear.
I have to trust him.
As I typed out the dialogue I realised that I was already making assumptions.
"But the decision that you make will take you through a hard life."
What right do I have to make that statement?
What makes me think that just because I am happy from the journey that I've walked that I should force my opinions on him as well?
I stick to my statement:
We will just have to make the best of it.
And move on