Gave counselling to a young lad today.
Let's call him A.
A's boss approached me after learning of the chronic depression.
And so I initiated a session of counselling, with the boss's silent presence, of course.
A had spent a couple of years in Melbourne before returning to Singapore.
And since his parents have migrated over to Melbourne as well, he is quite alone in Singapore.
What made it worse was that his 'best' friends, who bunked in with him over the weekends just stole his valuables while they were staying over at his place last weekend.
This has made him even more wary about the people around him.
His routine besides work is to "go home and watch TV", even during the weekends.
"I am lonely," he said.
How does one counsel a person who is lonely?
I suggested that there are certain self-doubts as well as an inferiority complex problem that should be confronted.
I questioned A on his closest support.
I challenged A to think of ways to suppress this loneliness.
"I will go to church."
He's a catholic.
Catholic churches are rather sombre, I thought.
Not too conducive for making friends, but oh well.
There must be more than that. I pondered for a moment and offered a few simple suggestions myself.
"Go for a course that you enjoy, ballroom dancing, pottery, calligraphy, whatever. You'll be able to find like-minded friends that way, without feeling too awkward."
"You can also go online and get to know people on a more personal level without the physical restraint via blogs such as blogspot, blogger, livejournal..."
I was deliberate not to put 'livejournal' as the first choice. Wonder why.
And the session was ended.
There was more of course, but I shan't elaborate.
What really struck me was that there are actually lonely people out there.
There are people who spend their weekends alone.
I recall a good friend confiding in me that she was so lonely that she actually talked to the fan, listening to the reverberations of the whirling blades.
I've got nothing else to note down.
Except the fact that I'm thankful that I've got constant company.
And of course, I earnstly hope that no one will need to go lonely.