March 17th, 2003


Back to words again

Just realised that I've been unable to load personal pictures, and hence it's probably back to words again.

Caught nine episodes of Sex and the City, and it's good education.
On life, love, relationships and commitments. It's a wonderful mirror and parody of what we humans do best: being irrational.

Lately I've been contemplating about the differences between a friendship and a relationship. What makes a relationship a relationship? What makes a couple different from a pair of best friends? Is it the intimacy that a couple share, be it sexual or otherwise, that defines the relationship?

I tend to see it as a commitment, an investment of extra effort and even personal sacrifices, towards the shared vision of holding hands with the other half at the age of sixty. The only problem with this seemingly naive idea is how we ought to define the amount of sacrifice that we make, that it does not take away what we were in the first place.

If I were to change, how much should I change, so that I am still the me that you would love. But then again, if you loved me for what I was in the first place, why the need to change?

Life's a mystery sometimes. Our credit.
  • Current Music
    Nowadays - Chicago OST

Nowadays - Chicago OST

You can like the life you're livin'
You can live the life you like
You can even marry Harry
But mess around with Ike
And that's
Good, isn't it?
Grand, isn't it?
Great, isn't it?
Swell, isn't it?
Fun, isn't it?
But nothing stays

This song has been lingering in my head these days.... with flighty lyrics that probably no one bothers to remember.
But I do. And the lyrics do make sense.
We can choose to like the life that we're living
We can also choose to live the life that we like.
The decision's entirely up to us, and that's good as it can get.
What struck me was the last line: "But nothing stays" Does anything stay? In this tumultous year I've seen enough breakups to reach a low that can possibly match our Straits Times Index. There's a dearth of love and romance in the air, and every turn I see masked loneliness amidst the false smiles in the company of friends.
Let's hope that things get better after the war. Yup, I know that war has nothing to do with it, but surely relationships would get better.

Even my own.
  • Current Music
    Nowadays - Chicago OST